With the New Year there are usually a lot of promises, resolutions and hopes that people make.
I do hope and expect a lot of the coming year but I’ve never really made new year’s resolutions. Why? For me it feels weird to make changes once a year. There shouldn’t be one time a year when we look at our lives and decide to change.
Be proactive, not reactive about changing yourself.
Sure, there are events in our lives that prompt change. There are incidents, conversations, fights and shortcomings where we realize we need to change. That’s all good. As long as you’re proactive about changing yourself.
You don’t want to be in a situation where everyone else sees your shortcomings and tell you to change and you have no clue of what they’re talking about.
Knowing yourself, your weaknesses and strengths, takes serious self-criticism. Now don’t go and beat yourself up about every shortcoming you have but analyze your life seriously. Don’t whitewash the faults and don’t undermine the strengths. Have a balanced look at your life and appreciate the strengths and take inventory of the faults and decide to work on them.
It’s not realistic to always be on top of our game and know our faults. Sometimes people around us need to tell us about our weaknesses. That’s alright. Get back up again.
Remember that growing as a person is a continuous process and a resolution here and there won’t make it happen. It takes work.
The new year is a good time to take that inventory though and see where we stand. But don’t judge your character by the success or failure of one resolution but rather by the long-term persistence to grow and move forward.